It has been said time and time again that people need friends if they are to make it through life. In fact, it is a common trope in movies and books how good friendships can save people and complete their lives. What they do not show, though, is the flipside of the coin – the toxic friends.
Some people will feel disloyal thinking of their friends as “toxic” but really, it is just calling a spade a spade. Some people can spot toxic friends right away but some people might need a little bit more of a push. Most of the time, the signs of a toxic friend are really clear but people are blinded by loyalty and friendship.
How to Spot and How to Deal with a Toxic Friend
Below are some signs that your friends might be toxic. Watch out for them carefully so you can plan what to do.
- Envious or possessive
- Insulting and negative
- Bad influence
According to experts, one way to tell if a person is toxic is to judge how you feel after being with them. If you feel heavy and sad then for the most part, they are toxic.
To Mend or To End?
Breaking up is hard to do whether it is with a boyfriend or a friend. In fact, breaking things off with a friend is often harder than breaking up with a boyfriend. Most literature on the field of toxic friendships say that it is not wise to end it ASAP – rather, try to confront the person and tell them what is bothering you about their behaviour.
Now if the reaction of the friend in general is negative and you can eventually picture confronting the person, you really need to think about whether you are friends at all and that it might be better to end things with that toxic friend.